When searching for a new partner as an adult it is important to understand the importance of open and honest communication while setting ground rules and boundaries.
The definition of polyamory is essentially “sharing” your romantic partner with another person in an open and completely open adult relationship. You or your partner, or you and your partner, are in multiple adult relationships and just trying to plan your week so that no one feels left out can be a challenge.
Whatever type of adult relationship you end up in, most successful open adult relationships are very negotiation-oriented and very well-organized. Everything from the time you meet someone to the amount of contact everyone agrees on in advance should be clearly defined because it will require serious negotiation. To be successful, you need clear communication and understanding from all sides. A popular poly blog even suggests that communication is the norm among polyamorous adults.
This means you need to be clear with your partner when you meet someone, where you’re going, and discuss anything dizzying about this potential new partner. Whether you met a potential new partner on adult in real life, or through some other means, share these details with your current partner and take them for a ride together.
Unlike monogamous adults, you need to set clear boundaries and communicate your feelings to each partner in a way that is understood and accepted by all involved. But juggling all these demands can be difficult when you’re having a busy week and trying to carve out time for commitments and for yourself. Add to that the disappointment of coming home from work expecting your partner to be home only to find they’re out, and what you thought was perfect adult behavior can quickly backfire.
It all fits in the palm of your hand, allowing you to view your loved one’s calendar, share your calendar with other partners, and share your calendar with others.
Your significant other wants to spend as much time with you as your significant other does, so remember to keep everyone’s wants and needs at the forefront of your weekly planning.
The worst thing you can do is overbook your calendar. Set boundaries in advance that represent the time off you and your partner need. Whether you spend the whole day curled up in bed, reading a book, or simply need time to run errands, blocking out digital time for yourself on your calendar shows that you have something for that time. You don’t want to inconvenience others.
This means that everyone involved feels heard, understood, and satisfied with the time you spend together in person. The only way to ensure that everyone’s feelings are taken into consideration is to keep the channels of communication open. If you want to spend more time with your partner, talk about it. Your feelings matter to adults. When everyone is on the same page, you can breathe easier because your feelings are acknowledged and understood.
We understand that not all polyamorous couples want to share their adult preferences with the world. That’s why adult gives you the discretion you’re looking for when searching for a new partner in your life. Curious? Sign up foradult create your free profile, and start browsing.
