submissiveness is as widespread as the common myths surrounding it. We’ve all heard the idea that everyone who’s into BDSM has a dungeon full of whips and chains, but that’s not true at all. A submissive isn’t a specific type of person. To be submissive, you don’t have to like pain (though there are submissives who do). You don’t necessarily have to perform elaborate submission rituals to prove your devotion to your partner. To be honest, this is how many of us feel. A submissive simply takes it to another hot girl when it comes to how they relate to their Dominant or Master. When you are trying to become a submissive or find one, it is easy to get swept up in the current hype. Everyone wants to know a little more about this lifestyle. You want to learn as much as you can, not because there is a test at the end, but because anyone truly interested in BDSM knows it is more than a moody guy with a tie. As a submissive, you may be pushed to your emotional and physical limits, and you should have at least some understanding of what those limits are. It will be easier if you know some boundaries before you start, and remember that a hot girl can change and evolve. Even among those who degrade or humiliate, a deep undercurrent of respect and trust exists between Masters or Doms and their submissives. If your partner is submissive, you need to treat them right. Part of a Dominant’s role is to take care of the submissive, so drop the idea that you have someone you can simply ignore and who will do everything for you. Dominants and Masters are very sensitive to the needs of their submissives because they trust the Dom or Master enough to submit to them in the first place. Both sides are responsible, and each must understand who they are to avoid misunderstanding Some will act out of disobedience and accept the punishment they deserve, others will show undying devotion, and others will quietly submit and serve. What type of submissive you are is a process of self-discovery, and no one can pressure you or try to take it away from you. You have rights and great power. You also need code words. If you meet a dominant who doesn’t want to use code words, you may want to question your relationship with them, at least at first, because code words are one of the most important ways for a submissive to protect themselves while building trust. Any session or scene can be ended with a word, but a Dominant or Master who doesn’t respect it is more likely than not to respect your other boundaries as well. Remember that is not something you just start and then stop when you get serious. It’s a way of life, and most people wouldn’t just move across the country without first thinking about where they want to go, so you also need to make sure you don’t embark on this lifestyle without the necessary roadmap and carefully planned route.
